Probably one of my favorite sayings of all time would have to be the title of my post today. Hey, I didn't say that I would always be spewing copious amounts of zen like intelligence all of the time, so, cut me a little slack will ya. Today I have opted to cover a journey that I have embarked on with what I have always referred to as "my damn hair". Dreadlocks. To me, dreadlocks are a magical thing of wild and crazy and dynamic women. Last night as I stood in line at Kroger, I heard an older couple behind me say "how'd you like to have hair like that?" I immediately was taken aback by the rude remark, and it really prompted me to address common misconceptions when it comes to having and maintaining dreadlocks. First and foremost I want to say that my dreads are in the stage of being fuzzy and wild and they stick out pretty much everywhere. I have a combination of dreadlocks on the underside, mixed with hair that I have yet to dread, which makes maintaining it all a little daunting. The first common misconception that I would like to debunk is that your hair is dirty. I truly wish that I could have dirty hair from time to time, but my hair is naturally oily, so it really isn't an option to skip more than one day, and that is only with the use of a dry shampoo. I wash my dreads every other day. I spend lots of time with a crochet hook late at night tightening them and working on them so they will stay locked up. I do anticipate that when my entire head is completly, and it is all in dreadlocks, I may be able to just wash it twice a week, and that is because dreads tend to stay dry and even when I'm sweaty, which is often around this time of year, it doesn't stay greasy. Something else I used to hear from people when I would voice my love of dreads and how I wanted them was "well just stop brushing it". Sure, I could have natural free forming dreads, but I have to have some sort of control over "my damn hair". I don't want my locks to be too large or too small or too tight. So, when I started my dreadlocks, I had a lovely lovely friend of mine by the name of Marian to section my hair up in very specific sections. This allows your dreads to fall the way you want them to. While the attraction for me is the wild nature of a dread, I'm going for an earthy, wild, whimsical look with my mane, not Alfalfa from Little Rascals. I can safely say (not that I have to), but nevertheless, my hair is very clean. Much cleaner than say, my grocey store feet that I get over the course of the day from gardening barefoot, or just being barefoot in general. Is this some sort of PSA to convince everyone that my dreads are the most awesome thing ever? Of course not. Its not for the faint of heart. It takes time and patience that is far beyond anything I've been able to accomplish prior to doing it. However, it has added something to my soul. I feel grounded and free. It's deffinately a journey and not something that you decide on a whim and go for it. You have to be able to surrender yourself to something that is slightly uncontrolable. If any of you know me personally, you know that I am bad to micromanage things. It's a struggle and something I don't enjoy about my personality, which was a big driving force behind the decision to finally pull the trigger on something I have wanted to do for years. I don't want to be the boss anymore. I am turning some things over to the universe to control. It's made it for centuries before I exsisted, and I feel certain that it doesn't need me to boss it around now.