When I started this website, it was meant to be a way for me to keep my friends and loved ones connected to me and to the things I love. I said from day one that this was not going to be another one of those pages that promote the typical self-love propaganda that you read every day. I do find it to be of great importance to love yourself and be over the moon with what you are, but to actually tell you that it's ok to be this or that, is not what I'm here for. That being said, I have to address something that has been nipping at my heels for some time and begs to be addressed. When did we become a society of women that needs to be addressed as "real women" in order to be accepted? Clothes for "real women"? What in the actual fuck does that mean? You mean for fat women right? For us heavier gals? In that case, can we just call it what it is, remove the "real" tag, and move on? Why do we feel the need to let the media tear us apart as women? First, it seemed as though fat shaming was the big media pushed issue you would read about, but now what I feel is being done, is the complete opposite. I am a heavy woman and I am no more of a "real woman" than say, someone like my sister who strives to keep her health and fitness in check, and she is no more of a "real woman" than myself. We are equal parts badass. Because I can bear children doesn't make me a "real woman", it just means I have not only the ability but the desire to have children. The career woman who put her education first and opts out of motherhood for reasons that are her own is also just as "real". One of the most common posts I've been seeing float around is the heavier girl doing a yoga pose, which in my opinion is badass on several accounts, mainly because I tried the half moon pose myself, and I think I may have shortened my neck a bit. The entire article was about how she is overweight but still healthy and can do yoga. Well, ok great! Why does it have to be about the ability to do yoga as a heavier woman? It's YOGA! She was amazing in the pose and it wasn't about being a "real woman" anymore so than the super-fit person who can deadlift a dead carcass left from the previous WOD at the local CrossFit gym. They are equally strong women. Imagine the power that could come from women that are a united front without the media perpetuating a vicious cycle of judgment toward one another? What a force to be reckoned with. What we do with our bodies and our lives do not "real women" make. What we do as nurturing beings for the world and for others, is what makes us "Real Women". I'm not here trying to decode some conspiracy about how I feel like society and the media influences how we see other, to me that is just common sense. It's the main reason I don't have cable and I can tell you that my perception of things has changed dramatically. We do not watch the news or mainstream television and maybe for us, it makes it easier to see all things as real and palpable and be thankful for those experiences.